Warning: Some of these dating tips might not be pretty, or what you want to hear. Some of you might think that they are not "politically correct" (whatever that might mean in today's age). However, these tips are truthful, plain and simple and are spot on when it comes to the members of The Dating Lounge.

Please, don't shoot the messenger. Take these tips with a grain of salt. And if you're smart and savvy, you will follow them. 

For Men:

--Women in The Lounge like men who take charge and have a plan. If you are a Member of The Lounge, women expect that you are sophisticated and know how to plan a date. Don't disappoint; if you do, she will move onto someone else.Women in The Lounge expect you to be able to use Google and find a place to go even if the neighborhood is unfamiliar to you. Spend the time if you are interested in her. No excuses.

--Women in The Lounge expect men to pay on the first date. And being a member of The Lounge implies that you "know the rules". Don't be an outlier, just pay.Women in The Lounge expect the men in The Lounge to have a clue about fashion. Are they looking for a metrosexual? No, not really (maybe a few are). What they expect is that you are decently dressed for a date. Pretend you are going to a business meeting and figure it out.

--Women in The Lounge know you are successful or you wouldn't be a Member. However they do not want to listen to you brag about your riches. If you are successful, she will be able to sense that, just from your demeanor and the way you present yourself; you don't need to spell it out for her.

--Women in The Lounge don't want to hear you talk about all your ex's or how many models you have dated. If a woman in The Lounge is accepting a date with you, she is assuming you are eligible. She does not want to hear about all your conquests from the past.

--Women in The Lounge expect that you take vacations and travel. If you don't, you should; vacations are good for the soul. And if you do, keep in mind that travel is a great bonding topic for first dates, as long as the photos you share from your iPhone are not of you surrounded by a bevy of young girls clad in super tiny bikinis.

--Women in The Lounge are interested in dating men who are looking for real relationships. Does this mean that you need to propose tomorrow? Absolutely not. However, they are looking to get into something good, slowly and see where it goes, with the hope that it can eventually lead to "I Do". If you are not that guy, choose another online community in which to play around.

--Women in The Lounge want to be with men who care about their appearance. This is not so say that women are even one thousandth as picky as men when it comes to looks. However, they still don't want to date a slovenly, unkempt person.

For Women:

Men in The Lounge care about looks. They just do. If you want to be taken seriously as a real contender for a real relationship, make sure you put forth the best-looking "you" on every date. No excuses.

Men in The Lounge are attracted to fit women. This is not about thin or fat, although in today's world all know that most men prefer thin women. This is about being fit: working out, eating healthy, caring about yourself. You have no choice in this; it's the reality of the high-end singles community.

Men in The Lounge like happy women. If you are sitting around thinking that playing hard to get works, it doesn't. That is an adage from yesteryear. You shouldn't be a doormat, but you certainly shouldn't be a pain in the butt when it comes to everything either. If you are too difficult, he will walk away and find someone easier.

Men in The Lounge have a preconceived notion that women are in a rush to get married. This is a problem that can't be fixed regardless of what anybody says. Hence, it is your job to make sure that you come across relaxed and in no rush. This is not to say you should fabricate your feelings, it is just to say that you need to make it clear that you are not in as big of a rush, as a man might assume.

Men in The Lounge, on the other hand, are in no rush to get married. Do they want to get married eventually? Yes, most do. However, they want to do it on their own time clocks and no one ever quite knows the timing of any particular guy. What does this mean to a woman in The Lounge? You might need to give the ultimatum, eventually, just to help him catch up to your time clock. Don't let this depress you because once he agrees to take the plunge, he will be gung-ho thereafter.

Men in The Lounge believe women are a little crazy. Why? Because most every man in The Lounge or one of his very good friends has experienced a looney-toon woman in his dating career. It is important that you disprove this untruth in your actions. Save your crazy for your girlfriends and for your mother.

Men in The Lounge don't like Valentine's Day. Are there a few who will claim they like the "holiday" just fine, probably. However, overall, there is a group consensus that they are anti this "Hallmark" holiday. So, don't get all upset when his efforts to be romantic in February don't live up to your expectations. Focus on bigger things.

Men in The Lounge want to end up with a woman that they believe will be a good mother to their children, eventually. What does this mean? It means: let our male members see your maternal side, but don't ram it down their throats.

Men in The Lounge are attracted to women who like sex. Why? Because men in The Lounge like sex; all men do. If you don't like sex with your guy, he is NOT your guy. The relationship will never last if you are not having sex (preferably good sex and a lot of it).